Attitude of Gratitude

 

This summer has been hard. Looking from the outside in, it’s pretty easy. I’m off for the summer (I’m a teacher), my biggest struggle has been coordinating the kid’s schedule and driving them to activities within a 5-mile radius.

During the school year, I commute about an hour each way, work, drive and pick up to various activities. So why am I feeling overwhelmed?

Some Recent Changes

There have been some changes in my life in the last few months. Some good, some not so great.

After a long battle with Alzheimer’s, my father passed away.

I will have a new boss when I go back to school in September.

The business I was a consultant for, Wildtree Seasonings and Blends closed.

After not working for six years, my husband got a job for the summer.

My younger daughter’s best friend moved away.

Claire, my older daughter graduated from middle school.

What’s the problem?

“Change was exciting, if you are not changing, you aren’t evolving,” I would say to anyone that was listening.  I embraced change, and I craved it.

However, in the past, I was in control of any changes, and now it seems like everyone is changing. I am just watching it and feeling the effects.

As everyone was changing, I felt like I was stuck in quicksand not being able to breathe.

It has been really eating me up inside, and I started to resent everyone around me. There is a list of changes I want to make, but somehow I’m still stuck.

How Can I Get Back on Track?

BJ Fogg, a Stanford researcher specialized in behavior change, has found that there are only three things that will change your behavior long term:

1. Have an Epiphany- probably not the most practical idea,  waiting for my Aha! Moment? I’m not Oprah, it’s probably not likely going to happen.

2. Start Small- This reminds me of the book Atomic Habits by James Clear. I referenced Clear in my New Year’s post. To be honest, I haven’t kept up with it. Here are some reminders:

Let’s take exercise start with 10 minutes a day. You will see the success and want to do more. Increase each day by 1% and you will see results. Then, when you build up, break the habits into chunks.

3.  When you slip, get back on track quickly- Planning is Key! You need to plan, for the things that may get in your way. How are you going to keep up with your responsibilities at home or at work? If something pulls you away from your routine how are you going to get back on course?

What are you thankful for today? Post below, it will make you feel better.

 

 

 

 

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